Today is our 38th wedding anniversary day.38 years...Oh..it is quite long when we look it back.But for us it seems to be just yesterday. 38 years ago,a young engineer and a young doctor built their family with love.Yes with only love. A very fragile marriage.How funny we are at that time!!!The young doctor didn't even know whether the water was boiling or not to make a cup of coffee for her husband at that time....ha...ha.Because she is the youngest in her family and most loved by her parents and brought up with many many servants , never got a chance to enter the kitchen. On the other hand young engineer is the pet of his mother who is the most powerful in that family and never got a chance to enter their kitchen too.We have started our family with those kind of qualifications.and it is very very difficult for us .And frankly speaking, I don't like many of the things she likes she also doesn't like most of the things I like.For example I don't like(even hate) the smell of half boiled egg but she likes it very much. She likes green color and I don't like that color.She is aggressive and I am very very aggressive.She is not interested in making money but WHO is just the opposite.We have many many such differences If we write down those differences on paper,it may fill more than 10pages But we have been successfully building our family.
HOW?
MUTUAL LOVE.!! We have many many differences but there is no difference in loving each other. We love to be together.We have struggled through the Tsunamies of Life TOGETHER.Downs or ups, successes or failures, happy or sad, whatever it may be, we are TOGETHER.We have one and only consolidated feeling TOGETHER,which is based on mutual LOVE.We love each other, was,is and will be.Its the most important one in building family, I think.
There is another very important word that can make a family peaceful, prosperous and successful., It is called ..ADJUSTMENT."ADJUSTMENT" was, is and will be also the most important word that make our family successful.We have so many adjustments through out our marriage and there will always be in future.It is a never ending story for every marriage.
Today, in every morning when I wake up , morning coffee is always there on our dinner table for me, which is prepared by my wife,not one day but every morning for more than 30years.She now knows very well whether the water is boiling or not. Even she can cook now (but I don't like). Then what!.Its easy. I become a very good cook ha ha (she likes my cooking very much) .I have many green shirts and longyis.They are the presents presented by her. Now I 'd love to wear those green ones.The whole week she may see all Korea soap opera on TV and I am with my internet .But on Saturdays and Sundays, TV program is mine. I will see Premeir Leagueand she may learn her Abidhama Dhamma books without any complaint.
We can now adjust almost all differences. BECAUSE WE LOVE EACH OTHER VERY MUCH.
LOVE and ADJUSTMENTS...the only words that YOU need to build your successful family . You may all agree with me.
